New Year Musings

We started the New Year slowly and quietly. Our house has been plague ridden since early December and I am about ready to call a Haz Mat team in to sterilize everything from floor to ceiling. Between the four of us, we’ve had several bouts of major head cold and stomach flu. Even one of the cats has been sick with stomach issues. At least no one had a hangover on New Year’s Day but I’m not sure the alternative was much better. Jim, having a hardier constitution than the rest of us, has managed to get by (so far, at least) with just some congestion.


It has given me much time to contemplate and regroup. Money is tight so we will be sticking very close to home this year, with one exception–taking my Mom to Sun Valley in October for her favorite jazz festival. We have huge garden plans and will continue to move slowly toward more sustainable living (tip number one for the year–grow something! Even if it’s just a pot of herbs or an aloe vera plant on your kitchen counter).

One thing that I have been giving a lot of thought to, is how do I make this blog something unique. Something that people would want to follow. That’s been a tough one and it’s been as changing as our life circumstances these last three years. I follow many blogs and Instagram accounts of varying kinds but I do notice that so many of them portray the ideal life we all wish we had. The couples who have sold everything to travel the world, the fearless young people who are social media influencers and actually get paid to travel to exotic places, the photographers who roam the world living their dream. I can’t offer any of that, but maybe what I can offer is a dose of reality.

The truth is, we could sell everything we own and we still couldn’t travel the world. My Mom is a widow and needs us close to help with the many things that go wrong in a normal house and yard after 17 years. The dishwasher, the washing machine, the decaying deck. I have an elderly horse who, while being boarded at a wonderful stable, still needs grain and a farrier and good brushings and basic vet care. We have a cat with major health issues who needs a special diet and Sub Q fluids every week and a half. Our yard has no built-in watering system, which is fine for half the year but not in the summer, when it can take almost two hours to water everything by hand. Like so many people, we have responsibilities that can’t be put aside. And, like so many people, things have been getting more difficult for us.

What I can do with this blog is show you that you are not alone if things are going wrong. You are not alone if it’s getting really hard to make ends meet. You are not alone if you suffer from depression but must act like everything is OK. Life for most of us comes with lots of ups and downs and it’s not the exotic stuff of so many social media accounts.


After a year of injuries, I am hoping we will be getting back out on the trails and the water, so we’ll be sharing more adventurous photos; but remember, almost all of our trips are day trips that require just a bit of gas and maybe a Discover Pass (here’s your second tip for the year–we shop at one local grocery store that rewards our loyalty with gas points. I recently filled up the 22-gallon tank on our big truck for $2.39 a gallon!). I am experimenting with herbal remedies and will offer a few more recipes this year (and possibly some products to sell), but I am not using exotic ingredients. I use what I grow, what grows naturally around us, and what can easily be obtained from the grocery store or on the internet for a reasonable amount of money (my latest project involves a bottle of olive oil that was on sale at the grocery store and the tips of our Christmas tree–which we cut ourselves along the gas line trail behind our house). I have given up the idea of mirrorless cameras and am hoping to pick my DSLR camera back up this year and share some good images. This is the year of using what we have.

As always, I would love to hear from you. Please feel free to make suggestions or ask questions! And remember, we still have a gift to offer to a lucky US follower once we reach 50 people, so tell your friends!

Happy New Year to you all. May you find joy in the small things and peace in the quiet moments.

PS I have a favor to ask of all of you. (I promise, this is the closest I will ever get to discussing politics on this blog.) Let’s make this the year of truth. Lies and hate have always been a part of politics, but these last few years have been frightening here in the US. Lies on social media are believed far more often than legitimate new reports and they spread like wildfire. They also engender incredible outrage and hate by those who can’t be bothered to check the veracity of what they read. Please, please, please–fact check everything. That means doing research, not just checking in on one favorite source. We are responsible, as citizens, to be truthful. Lies lead to hate, which leads to violence. Truth leads to peace.


Happy New Year

Today I just want to say thank you to my followers, those who have stuck with us through my erratic posting and those who have just recently joined us (welcome!). I have been working on a new post–actually a few of them–but I just can’t quite wrap them up in the way I envisioned them at the start. I will keep working and will hopefully post soon! I will be posting on thoughts on the luxury of time and some recipes for DIY body scrubs and butters (got the recipes, need some good images).

In the meantime, I have been enjoying our unexpectedly beautiful few days here in the Northwest. Short walks around the property, a bit of work in the garden. Sat on a sunny rock and listened to the birds and frogs for awhile. Played in our seasonal creek. Even saw a snake sunning itself. These two days have felt like spring, but I’ve had to rein myself in and remember that there are still two months of winter yet! Stay away from the garden center for now!! Maybe I’ll just sit down with the Territorial catalog and order my seeds.

This year I am trying to slow down and appreciate time (more on this in a later post). I am also trying to cut out the middle man,and the processing that goes with that, and make more things from scratch. Right now, I have turkey slow roasting for the cats, just finished a tropical body butter (plumeria and pikake–yum!), I’m experimenting with Slippery Elm for tummy disorders for both people and cats (so far so good), and I’m ready to try sourdough again. When you aren’t working and those checks aren’t coming in, making things from scratch generally saves money, but it also makes us slow down and appreciate things.

On a different note, I’ve always been quite a reader, but have slowed down the last few years with all the stress and problems we’ve faced. But I’m getting back into it again, this time with a series of non-fiction. Just thought I would share my list for the new year, as I’ve enjoyed them all! The first is Confessions of a Pagan Nun by Kate Horsley. A fascinating read and surprisingly timely for women, considering the original codex it’s based on was written about 500 AD. Next was Michael Pollan’s Cooked, which makes me want to spend the next few months in the kitchen. I’m now reading The Snow Leopard by Peter Matthiessen, which I’ve thought about reading for years but finally found myself in the perfect frame of mind.

For those of you who enjoy our outdoor adventures–don’t give up! We’ve had a series of setbacks in the form of injuries and illness (nothing serious) but we hope to be back on the trails soon.

Hope the new year is staring out well for all of you! I promise I will be better about engaging with other bloggers this year!!!!


Moving On

This is a difficult blog post to write, as a part of me feels like I am giving up. But actually, this is about moving on, and there is a big difference. We are often told that if we can find a job doing what we love, we will never have to “work.” The idea being of course, that your work will be fun and won’t seem like work. This is a wonderful concept that works very well for some people, but not for all of us. Sometimes, the thing that we love needs to be our escape, sometimes it truly needs to remain the thing we do for fun–only for fun. Even if you are successful, as many are, in making a living at the thing you love, there is a change the minute you begin to monetize that thing–maybe it’s cooking, writing, music. For me, it’s photography.

I have been involved with photography since I was a child who took horrible photos with my little Brownie camera (yes, I’m that old). I took photography classes in high school and majored in photojournalism. For years, I wanted to be a horse show photographer. I finally made the plunge about ten years ago. For a few years it worked. I enjoyed it and made a little money, though never a profit. I had to stop for some health reasons, among other things, and spent the next several years trying different aspects of the photo business. Nothing really worked, as far as making it a go as a business. There are many reasons (most of them my own fault), and I won’t go into that (I have friends who know exactly what I am feeling) because that’s not the point of this post.

When I was younger, I always felt that I had to finish a book, even if it wasn’t good. As I got older, I realized that it wasn’t worth the time. I have reached that point with my photography. It is no longer worth the time, and more importantly, the money needed to make a business work. Regardless of any other aspects (such as marketing, which I am remarkably awful at managing), photography is a spendy business, with technology constantly changing. It’s not just the cameras, but the software, the computer needed to run everything, the website, taxes, etc. I simply can’t afford it anymore–as a business.

For all my friends who are saying “no, don’t do it!”, I am not giving up photography, just the business. It’s been an albatross around my neck and it’s time to let go. I will be selling my Canon DSLR equipment (anyone interested??), and going mirrorless, which means lighter, which means I will take my camera out more, which means more fun. Life is too short to keep at something that isn’t working. Let go and move on.

Garden Bounty

I know I’ve been quiet lately. It’s been a difficult summer. Not in a catastrophic way, like our last few years, but one of those where so many smaller things pile up that it suddenly becomes too much to take, especially for someone with chronic depression. I haven’t had my normal outlet of hiking for some time. Jim got a bad burn on his leg early in the summer (luckily it has completely healed–even the scar isn’t bad) and I hurt my foot last month. We have been paddling a few times–lots of fun, but not as often as I would like. Last month everything seemed to happen at once and I got to the point where I just had to hold on tight and ride out the storm. I’m finally reaching the end of this one and my saving grace has been my garden (and having the time to be out in it).

Gardening requires patience. You can’t rush it. Even when it’s exploding with produce that must be picked, you can only go so fast. This gives the mind a break from life’s chaos. The combination of being out in the elements, working in the soil, smelling the vegetation, and slowing down has a wonderful soothing effect on the soul. I have a chair near the vegetable garden and often just sit and listen to the bees. Even watering can be a relaxing routine–Jim fills the cans for me as I water (though next year we will probably look into a more efficient system!)


I have always enjoyed gardening, but this year it’s taken on a new meaning, as we can really use the food–it helps with the grocery bill! We are making an extra effort to not be wasteful and it’s paying off with a freezer full of goodies, plus lots of fresh meals. I have only purchased lettuce once in the last several months and haven’t had to buy tomatoes since mid-July. Sunflower seeds are being roasted today, tomatillos have been roasted and frozen, zucchini grated, kale leaves packaged, salsa and sauces made and frozen. Peppers, tomatoes, and cucumbers are all going strong. Fall seeds will be going in soon.


An abundance of fresh produce can encourage a search for new recipes. We’ve tried zucchini raviolis and lasagna, using strips of zucchini in place of pasta. Both are wonderful and the raviolis make a pretty spectacular presentation, especially when topped with a sauce of fresh picked tomatoes and herbs. Our simplest go-to recipe is to take whatever has just been picked and put it in a freshly made tortilla (super easy to make!).

Growing your own food is incredibly satisfying. I’m very lucky to have room for a big garden, but even a few potted plants on a windowsill, balcony, or counter will give you a connection to nature. Many vegetables grow well in containers on a patio or deck. Tomatoes and strawberries can grow in hanging pots. Herbs can be easy to grow and have so many uses in both cooking and beauty products (I use a rosemary rinse for my hair). You can start small and still enjoy the benefits!

Happy gardening to all of you!


First Impressions are Not Always Right

This week we had an interesting hands-on experience of why one should not make snap judgements. We were camping at a state park here in Washington. We had settled in already and were relaxing in the campsite (with our tent and tent trailer) when a very large fancy RV pulled in a few spots down. They had the generator going pretty quickly and I remember thinking, I hope that doesn’t go on all night. Apparently there are rules in most campgrounds that state the generators should be off by a certain time–from what I hear it is 10:00 in many places but was 9:00 at this particular campground. We didn’t think much of it while going to bed, other than a mild irritation that it started up again later in the evening. We went to bed very early that night. Right after nine, there was a huge ruckus down the road. Swearing, yelling, an air horn that scared the crap out of us, and all kinds of hullabaloo. Other campers were indignant about this RV running its generator late at night. And I must admit, at the time I was kind of on their side. I like the peace and quiet of old school camping. But we didn’t get involved in the fray.

The next day we found out that the poor man who owned the RV turned on his generator that night because his wife had a severe attack of heat exhaustion. He was running it to keep the air conditioner going while he was trying to pack up his campsite late at night so he could get her home. Did anyone offer to help? Did anyone ask him nicely to turn the generator off? Did anyone ask why he was running it after hours? No, they started right in with the swearing and belligerence. He tried to explain that his wife was sick but was shouted down. Isn’t someone’s health more important than an hour of noise?

We all make these snap judgements at some time. It’s one of the big problems in our society. How dare that person buy a cake using food stamps, how dare you have an Iphone instead of health insurance, how dare you have a car that actually runs well if you are getting any kind of aid, how dare you this and that. It’s time we take a step back and use kindness as the first approach. Is there a reason for this behavior that we may think is wrong? If so, how can we help? If you have no idea of how someone came to be in their situation, maybe you shouldn’t put them down until you hear their story. And just maybe you shouldn’t put them down regardless of their story.


The Dangers of Too Much Stuff

Here in the US, we live in a culture that promotes the acquisition of stuff–lots and lots of stuff. We have ridiculous sayings, like “He who dies with the most toys wins.” Really?? What the hell do you win? This need to keep up with the Joneses, the need to acquire more and more, has caused countless problems in our society, but I’m not going to discuss the political or cultural ramifications of stuff. What I want to talk about is how it affects you if you are suffering from depression or dealing with chaos in your life.

Like everything else, stuff in moderation is OK, but many of us spend our whole lives collecting more and more stuff that ends up in boxes, basements, attics, garages, storage units, closets, and extra rooms. We pay money to store boxes of stuff that is never opened. We save stuff that friends gave us years ago. Are you really going to forget that friend if you get rid of the trinket they gave you at 18? We save clothes that need mending, even if they are 15 years out of style or we weigh too much to ever fit in them again. We save paper from ages ago. If you are my age, you don’t need your college transcripts, your first resume, or the documents from the first house you owned (unless you still live in it!). If your child is 25 and has a college degree, you don’t need every piece of high school work. If you put all the good photos in albums, you probably don’t need the crappy ones left in the box (and I am very guilty of that one!). If you are not using that stuff, there is a mighty good chance you don’t need it. Certainly there may be family treasures that are worth saving. There are documents that you must save. Photographs bring back lovely memories and keep the good times alive. But be real folks!

Stuff can be stifling. It can halt creativity. Too much stuff can surround us with stress, and if you are already feeling like you are on the edge, that stuff can be downright debilitating. Depression often causes us to be unable to start a project that appears too daunting. People who don’t have it will never understand, but the idea that we might start something and not be able to finish easily is sometimes viewed as just another failure. Or it may be that going through all that stuff reminds you of all the good intentions you had that were never accomplished–more failure. The problem is that the more you accumulate, the more likely you feel that failure just by opening the wrong door. You walk in a room and have to walk right back out because you can’t deal with all that stuff. It has physical effects that are not pleasant.

There are books out there that deal with this subject. I think some of them go a little bit too far, or are daunting in themselves, but they have a point. If it doesn’t bring you happiness or have some value or function (my can opener doesn’t make me happy but I do need it), it might be time to toss it. That in itself can be an issue, as we are often overwhelmed with what to do with things. We paid a lot of money for this, or we know that is in fabulous condition, but where does it go? If you have to make too much effort to get rid of things, you won’t. Unless something is truly valuable (like heirloom jewelry, a fancy car, or vintage furniture), you may find greater value in getting it out of your house rather than worrying about getting something out of it. I’m not suggesting that you throw things away (unless they really are junk). You should always recycle or donate when you can, but don’t have 27 boxes all going to different places. They will just end up staying right where they are. Keep it simple.

Getting rid of stuff does require the right mindset. It can be depressing in and of itself. It is overwhelming. It can be especially awful if you have lost someone and are going through their things (you need to take your time with this–it’s a whole different issue). You need to take advantage of the feeling when it comes along. Sometimes it can actually feel good to get rid of things, and when it does–go for it, even if you have to put off something else. You will feel better in the long run. Getting rid of excess stuff can help us step away from the rat race and find some balance in our lives. For those of us dealing with cosmic crap, that can be huge. We are not defined by our stuff, and we need to be able to see that.

I would love to hear your point of view on the matter. Any tips or suggestions?IMG_9663blog

These Lemons are Downright Rotten

A friend of mine recently told me she was missing my blog posts and I realized it had been quite some time since I wrote anything. So here’s my reason why. I apologize in advance, as this is going to be a bit of a rant, and I had hoped to keep this blog upbeat for the most part. But it is a blog about coping with major life changes, and sometimes you just need to blow off steam.

A few weeks ago, my husband got a call out of the blue that we thought might be a big change for us, finally in a good way. He got his job back, after a year and a half of being in limbo. The HR department sent him forms to fill out and he was given a date and time to report back to work in two weeks. We were stunned, and then relieved. A huge weight was lifted off our shoulders. It took several days to sink in but it did. One of the reasons I haven’t posted is that I was trying to decide how to continue the blog, as we would no longer be semi-retired.

Luckily, we made no huge financial decisions, because we failed in an age-old lesson–don’t count your chickens before they are hatched. Poor Jim showed up to work at the crack of dawn on Tuesday and was told, “Oh sorry. You don’t have a job after all.” Wow. Stunned once again. If they had called us a day or two after the first news, we would have been OK. After all, nothing much has changed–we are right back where we were a month ago. We didn’t go out and buy a new car or book a month-long tropical vacation. Our big splurge on hearing the good news was buying six fruit trees. I think we can recover from that expense! But the emotional impact is huge. I feel like we have gone back to the beginning, and we are now going through all those awful feelings once again.

We will manage. We were managing. We will continue. We have good supportive friends and family. We have each other. We have a house that’s paid for. In the grand scheme of things, we are better off than a great many people. But it still sucks. It seems like a really nasty, extended April Fool’s joke. And no one likes to feel like a fool.

My next post will be more positive, I promise!

Garden Dreams, Garden Realities

This is the time of year when my thoughts turn to gardening. I always have grand visions, which usually don’t turn out quite the way I imagined. But it’s fun to dream big! This year, we have a lot of work to do. Shortly before Jim lost his job, we sold our big house in the suburbs and bought a small place on almost six acres out in the boonies. It turned out to be one of the few really good things that has happened in recent years, as we no longer have a mortgage, and that is truly a blessing with our money struggles.

It does mean that we need to be much more creative. We are trying to be more self-sufficient, which isn’t a bad thing, even if money isn’t tight. But for us, it’s a necessity. It can be a challenge, but it can also be a lot of fun! We have about an acre cleared out of a portion of 20 to 25-year poorly managed Douglas fir. I’m sure the timber company sold off the land some time ago, and therefore, it was never thinned properly. Our vision is to slowly restore the property to a more natural state. But first, we must deal with the cleared area and work on establishing our garden, so we can grow some of our own food (the deer think it’s for them, but we will work on that!).

One of our biggest problems is soil. Anyone in Western Washington probably knows what I’m talking about. Rocks, rocks, and more rocks. All of the lovely glacial stuff left behind. We do have a few pockets of good soil, but they are either in shade all day or under water seven months out of the year (or both). Cranberries maybe?? The one big sunny patch is also the area with the most rock (of course!). We’re not even trying to clear the stuff away; we’re just building up on top. And that’s where the fun and creativity come in. I’ve been reading lots of books and magazines about woodlot management and self sufficiency from the library and online. Last year we started a straw bale garden, which is becoming quite popular. We had mixed results. Some things did very well, others not so much, though I think weather had far more to do with it than the straw bale setup (growing tomatoes the the NW is always a crapshoot). The biggest problem for me was expense. We did it sort of last minute and it ended up being more expensive than I had hoped. Straw is not as cheap here as it is in some other places! It did, however, leave us with a nice pile of rotted straw that we can plant in again this year and then compost in what will become the main garden.

This year we are planning the main garden, which will eventually be fenced against the deer. We are using two strategies–lasagna gardening and hugelkulter. I must admit, I want to do the hugelkulter in part because of the name. Who doesn’t want to be able to say “I’ve got a hugelkulter in my yard!” OK, maybe I’m the only one. But both use what we’ve already got. Today I spent several hours (and about 2 miles of walking around the property, which is good because I’ve been slacking off on my exercise program!) building the hugelkulter mound. I won’t go into too much detail, but it’s a long-term garden solution using wood debris, tree limbs, and whatever organic matter you have around to build a big mound which breaks down slowly but adds tons of wonderful nutrients to the soil. Since we have lots of thinning to do, there will probably be quite a few of these mounds around the yard! The February/March 2017 issue of Mother Earth  News talks about both types of gardening, plus several others.

We’ll keep you posted on the progress of our garden experiments!


Look at that lovely soil we’re starting with! Found a huge mound of fir cone remnants in our woods. Using several buckets of it to add to the pile. Still lots of work to do.

Why We Hike


This blog is about the ways my husband and I are coping with a very different situation from the one we were in a few years ago. One of the realities we have learned to face is that our future travel plans have changed dramatically. That trip to Bora Bora is not likely to ever happen. Nor will we be able to even keep up with our yearly trips somewhat closer to home. It can be hard to let those dreams go, but we are finding new adventures in our own backyard. That is where our hiking comes in. It’s not something we did all that much of before, unless we were on a vacation somewhere. Jim likes speed, in the form of water and snow skiing and riding dirt bikes. But these things are expensive. We have had to cut back, and hiking locally is a great solution for a number of reasons.

First, it’s cheap and we need cheap activities to keep us from going crazy. We are not backpackers, just day hikers. For that, one needs good boots, a decent day pack, and mostly, common sense (like pay attention to the weather and to maps, dress in layers for our NW climate, carry the essentials like WATER, and my personal favorite, maybe if you are almost out of gas, you should be going down the mountain, not up! I always wonder if the two in that car are still up there). Our daughter bought us a book of hikes around the Olympic Peninsula, since we live in Belfair (entitled Day Hike! Olympic Peninsula by Seabury Blair Jr). It’s a great resource and we started last year with the easier hikes. There are many books like this for various areas around the country, so pick one up for your area!

Hiking is great exercise, which helps us stay healthy. That’s important for anyone, but we need to be really careful with our health, because without insurance through Jim’s work, our healthcare is up in the air. Exercise also gets those endorphins going, which makes you happier. Best of all, it provides peace and solitude, especially during the week or in the off-season. This is a vital part of my well-being. I, like many of us, suffer from monkey brain. Too much going on in there, and with all our recent troubles, those darn monkeys are starting to fling shit at each other. A trip to the woods always works to calm the little beasts down.

I hope you can find peace and joy in the wilderness around your home. Slow down, listen, watch, and be happy. Here’s some natural “music” to get you started.